So I was watching this show and in it was a show host who was arguing with an author he was interviewing over a book she’s written and how the book was complicated and how some more explanations were necessary.
He questioned her stance on feminism and how feminism itself was somewhat crappy and they went on and on but that’s not what pinched me. What cut me down my throat was what he said when he went to ask for a chance at a second interview after the first one went haywire.
He went ahead and told her after he couldn’t convince her that at the end of the day what she wanted was “what every woman wants, a husband- security before the eggs dry up’. Aside this being sexist, it is utterly ridiculous, to say the least. Not everyone woman is looking for a husband.
Marriage is good, it is a positive step to take if and when one is willing. In fact, it is held in high esteem by both Christianity and Islam and it is even considered an act of worship in Islam. So yes, marriage is incredibly important but it is NOT just a women thing but a men thing too.
It is an indisputable fact that women have what could be termed as a limited amount of time as far as fertility is concerned, as such should take the chance when it presents itself, but giving birth is one thing and getting married is a whole different thing.
Being a woman of faith, I believe I don’t stand alone when I say marriage is a big step to opening the door for motherhood but there are millions of women out there who think otherwise; have skipped the marriage part and are mothers already. We don’t have to agree with them but neither do we have to push our ideas down their throats.
Our society does a great job at making unmarried women seem and even sometimes feel they aren’t women enough, no matter how successful they are in their chosen fields.
Again marriage is a great thing but it is NOT an accomplishment. It is not something to praise women for having nor is it something to belittle women for not having.
It is something to be happy about yes, but it certainly is not the recipe to every woman’s happiness or fulfillment, as such it is erroneous and subtly judgmental to assume that marriage is all that women are about.
There are many unmarried women out there who’ve accomplished so much as doctors, lawyers, bankers, teachers’ nurses etc and are saving the world literally and should not be celebrated any less for the simple reason that they are unmarried.
Marriage wasn’t created for women alone and women are certainly about so much more than being ‘marital symbols’!
Suraya Alidu Malititi
Source: Adwoaadubianews.com
